Keri's blog

Why the Needle Isn’t Moving

Tue, 05/17/2016 - 2:32pm -- Keri

Well-meaning parents want their children to succeed. For ten frustrating years, my colleagues and I have been telling parents what a monumental pile of studies consistently show to be the keys to a child’s later academic, emotional, psychological, and financial success.

The Great Slide Debate

Thu, 04/28/2016 - 12:00am -- Keri

OK, I confess: I let my kids climb up the slide. Some of you are gasping and shaking your fists. Others are shrugging. Apparently, I discovered recently, the Great Slide Debate is one of the throw-down, gloves-off, all-out mommy wars. 

When Parents Have a Favorite Child

Thu, 04/14/2016 - 12:00am -- Keri

To my own mother, it was an article of faith to show no favoritism. If two of us asked her whose drawing she liked best, the answer was predetermined: I like them just the same. When I tried to trick my mother by saying I had done both drawings myself, she saw right through me; she understood that children are constantly trying to elicit evidence of who is ahead and who is behind. And to the end of her life, if someone tried to draw my mother out in public praise, by saying, with reference to some particular milestone or achievement, oh, you must be so proud of your child, she would respond, firmly, yes, I’m proud of all my children.

Nine Questions to Help You Get Beyond the Ten Plagues This Passover

Wed, 04/06/2016 - 12:00am -- Keri

Frogs are a safe, useful, and age-appropriate way to introduce very young children to some of the themes and rituals of Passover. As our children grow older, however, we want to move beyond a focus on these elements to help them develop a deeper understanding of not only the story of Passover, but the values we can discover in its themes.

The 4 Worst Things You Can Do For Your School-Age Child

Wed, 03/23/2016 - 12:00am -- Keri

As an elementary school teacher, I have encountered a broad spectrum of personalities over the years: the rule followers, the troublemakers, the mother hens, the class clowns, the overachievers, the underachievers. You name it, and I’ve had one in my class. Not surprisingly, meeting with the parents of any of these students explains everything about their personality and classroom disposition.

Addicted to Distraction

Tue, 03/08/2016 - 12:00am -- Keri

One evening early this summer, I opened a book and found myself reading the same paragraph over and over, a half dozen times before concluding that it was hopeless to continue. I simply couldn’t marshal the necessary focus.

When Children Say ‘I Can’t,’ but They Can, and Adults Know It

Wed, 02/10/2016 - 12:00am -- Keri

Over the last couple of months, I’ve received a few emails asking a similar question, venting a similar frustration, written in a similar exasperated tone. When I hit “send” on my own version of the question in an email to a friend, I knew it was time to seek some answers. I appealed to a few of my favorite parenting experts and authors, Katie Hurley, Michele Borba, Alyson Schafer and Tina Payne Bryson.

How To Nurture A Growth Mindset

Wed, 01/27/2016 - 12:00am -- Keri

According to psychologist Carol Dweck, adults and kids who possess a growth mindset “believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work,” while those people who favor a fixed mindset “believe their basic qualities, like their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits.” Having a growth mindset seems to be connected closely with the traits of persistence, resilience and effort — habits we want our kids to learn from an early age.

How To Nurture A Growth Mindset

Thu, 10/29/2015 - 12:00am -- Keri

According to psychologist Carol Dweck, adults and kids who possess a growth mindset “believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work,” while those people who favor a fixed mindset “believe their basic qualities, like their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits.”

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